Posted in Adventures, On Reading, Opinion

Please Don’t Ask Lesbians These…

After having enjoyed lunch today, I got a call from my girlfriend H telling me about some stupid reaction of some guy who just found out she’s gay. He has been flirting with her, of course. Making inappropriate comments and always pointing out to her how pretty she is. Finally, H just set it out straight that she’s not into men.

He was utterly befuddled and the first thing he asked was… How do you do it?! Yep! He went there straight. I get how it can be really surprising for some people, especially men if the lesbian lady doesn’t cross-dress as a man. Especially from where I grew up, in the Philippines, where what is now coined as a femme (a lesbian lady who dresses like a woman and is attracted to lesbians who dresses as a woman too) is literally “alien”.

So here are the absurdest questions I’ve encountered about my sexual preference since I came out 7 years ago.

How Do You Do It?

Unfortunately, when talking about sexual preferences, people always start with sex. Curious and hungry for information, men would typically jump on to Lesbian Porn imagery and imagines a threesome happening with them still included in the picture. “How do you do it?” Really?! That is private! Inasmuch as any regular hetero-couples would avoid telling on their sexual lives to people they just met or not even close to. Just because it’s unnatural to you, doesn’t mean you get to be rude and ask how others have sex.

I Don’t Get It. You Don’t Have The Tool For Sex. Is It Even Real Sex?

Err. Trust me, some lipstick lesbian (myself included) do not need your d*cks guys. And besides, do you think we live under a rock? There are pretty cool and more amazing tools than those.

And sex with a woman is definitely real sex. It even feels more real than sex with a man who can’t even make their woman orgasm. Tuh!

So, You Don’t Like Kids Eh?

What are you talking about? Of course we’d like kids! We want kids! And not just for vanity or for the sake of doing what I need to do on Earth, which is to pro-create. Personally, I’d want to have children, take note children. Again, we do not need a man to have them. We’re both women equally capable of bearing children and technology will help us procreate. So that’s twice the chances of having more kids. ‘No kids…’ think before you speak!

But… Which One Of You Is The Man?

No one. That’s the point. We are ladies who enjoy our femininity but are only attracted to women who also enjoys their femininity. We like to do each other’s hair, nails, and we talk a lot. It’s like being with your best friend, but only in a romantic sort of way. So neither of us is the man, nor do either one of us wants to be the man.

How Sure Are You About Liking Only Girls Though?

Well, apart from the obvious that I’m with one right now and I love her so much. Yep, I’m pretty certain.

Whoever Hurt You That Made You Decide To Be Gay?

No one hurt me. I didn’t turn gay coz I was heartbroken. I just am! I never really developed real intimate feelings with men. I only really develop intimacy with women. I am both sexually and emotionally attracted to women.

Have You Even Been With A Man Before?

To be completely upfront, and I speak in behalf of my fiancee too, we both have been with men. It was dull and uneventful and there was no spark! It was during a phase where society’s dictate to act ‘accordingly’ was so imbibed into our decision-making at a very early age in life. Where every girl was expected to only be with men. We had to try and fit in, but it didn’t matter because our attempt of ‘conversion’ had been futile. In the end, we were never happy because it’s not what we want primarily because we weren’t being true to ourselves. So it’s not a question about being with a man or not before, it’s always a case of belonging to a person with whom you can be yourself with and at home to.

Do You Not Find Your Sexual Preference To Be Sinful? Against God? This Does Not Please God.

We may have different Gods because the God I know will never forsake His children who has faith in Him just because we choose to love differently. The God we serve is the one who accepts and encourages us to love and love deeply regardless of who or what it may be. The God we recognize is the God that appreciates kindness and faithfulness more than those contemptuous bigots who took it upon themselves to judge others because they think they know better.

We like to educate people, teach them the different faces of the LGBTQ++ community inasmuch as we like to be educated. It is quite a sensitive topic though, we want to be able to impart to others what we know and be open enough to accept what others may not understand. But if you don’t mind, please also be cautious on your responses. Our patience do run thin as well.

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Posted in Opinion, Personal

Wedding Songs For All Kinds of Couples.

While planning our wedding, one of the things we were keen on meticulously choosing are the songs that best fit our relationship. As everyone knows, there are very limited wedding songs that cater to the same-sex marriage.

These songs we’re likely to use for the wedding or the honeymoon. *wink*

Here are the reasons why…

Forever Starts Today by Tim Halperin.

All the world is ours to take
You and me, we’ll find a way
Oh the wonder that awaits
Here we are
Forever starts today

Clearly, this is the “walk-in-the-isle” song. It’s like heading towards something great and amazing and being ecstatic about it. I also like how this song defines marriage as an adventure and seeing married life as being pleasantly imperfect journey of happiness.

I Choose You by Sara Bareilles

Let the bough break, let it come down crashing
Let the sun fade out to a dark sky
I can’t say I’d even notice it was absent
‘Cause I could live by the light in your eyes 

This is one of my personal favorites. Apart from the song being utterly applicable for gays, with the lack of pronoun-usage, I like how the lyrics tell everyone that regardless of the bad things, of the cynicism of others, of the fear of love and commitment, someone is willing to choose you over and over again because they love you. 

Perfect by Ed Sheeran

Baby, I’m dancing in the dark with you between my arms
Barefoot on the grass, listening to our favorite song
When you said you looked a mess, I whispered underneath my breath
But you heard it, darling, you look perfect tonight 

We all know how Ed Sheeran is able to knock very lady off of their feet – gay or not. Every time this song is played, my mind just wanders off to H. How she always says that she looks like a mess but I only see someone really beautiful. ♥

Everything by Michael Bublé

Oh when you smile at me
You know exactly what you do
Baby don’t pretend
That you don’t know it’s true
Cause you can see it when I look at you 

This is the song I used on the proposal video to H. And the above lines on this song is so true for me and H. The entire time she looks at me, whatever mood I’m in, it just changes! Even in the most depressing and miserable days, one look from her melts my heart and heals my ailing feelings. 

The One by Kodaline

In life
It’s easy to get scared oh
But with you I am prepared for
What has yet to come‘Cause our two
Hearts will make it easy
Joining up the pieces
Together making life

I guess I’ve always known that my The One is H the moment I laid eyes on her. Things hadn’t always been easy for us. We went through ups and downs in a brutal roller coaster ride, but when we face all of the challenges together there’s nothing we couldn’t surpass.

Thinking Out Loud by Ed Sheeran

And darling I will be loving you ’til we’re 70
And baby my heart could still fall as hard at 23
And I’m thinking ’bout how people fall in love in mysterious ways
Maybe just the touch of a hand
Oh me I fall in love with you every single day
And I just wanna tell you I am

Okay, another Ed Sheeran song. Yes, I am a fan – definitely a fan! Who wouldn’t fall in love with this song though? Now I think back on the stolen glances and kisses and subtle hints of showing interests the moment you knew you wanted to be with that person, this is definitely the background music. And every day since the day you met, not a day went by that you don’t fall in love with the person over and over again!

From The Ground Up by Dan+Shay

This life will go by
In the blink of an eye
But I wouldn’t wanna spend it without you by my side
The cloud are gonna roll
The earth’s gonna shake
But I’ll be your shelter through the wind and the rain

The title alone says a lot. Everything built together from scratch would hold more meaning to relationship! Building a house, a family, a future together would ensure a bond that will never be broken come rain or shine. Although there’s part of the song that says “I’ll be the man your dad hoped I’d be…” I’m just choosing to look past that and just enjoy the rest of the lyrics.

Smile by Uncle Kracker

You make me dance like a fool
Forget how to breathe
Shine like gold, buzz like a bee
Just the thought of you can drive me wild
Oh, you make me smile


Truly, she does. She makes me do a lot of stupid things just so I see that smile on her face thus bringing a smile on mine, too. Even with just one look at her, I’m all smiles already. A kiss, a hug, an “I love you” could already send me up on the horizons shooting down like a falling star if it would make any of her wishes come true. Luckily, I guess me as the shooting star falling head over heels for her is a wish that’d come true.

She Keeps Me Warm by Mary Lambert

She says I smell like safety and home
I named both of her eyes forever and please don’t go
I could be a morning sunrise all the time, all the time yeah
This could be good, this could be good

I love this line from Mary Lambert, because I’ve always loved H’s smell! It really does smell like safety and home. Anywhere we are, as long as I get to smell her, it’s as if I’m home and I can do whatever wherever we are. The title alone already says a lot – it’s the feeling of security and belonging that no luxury or comfort could ever match , not if you don’t get to share it with the person you love.

Yours by Russell Dickerson

I came to life when I first kissed you
The best me has his arms around you
You make me better than I was before
Thank God, I’m yours

This song is the closest to how I feel about myself when I’m with H. That feeling that you know you are the best version of yourself because in her eyes, your invincible and the way she supports you, you feel like you can conquer anything the world throws at you. I believe it has a lot to do with H having so much faith in me and having only seen it through her eyes. She needn’t say anything, I just look into her eyes and I know I can do and can be anything I want to be.

I’m Gonna Love You by Jennifer Love Hewitt

It didn’t start this way
It happened just one day
You smiled at me and I saw you differently
Now I would tremble just to be
A part of you as we
Begin a life that’s sure to never end

It’s a little cheesy and definitely heterosexual, unless you close your eyes and pretend that the one singing is Sam Smith (I wish!). This song is a good background music to look back on how things started with the person you love. Having met someone who’s helped you open your eyes to see things in a different perspective and not being able to imagine life without that person. This is not an absolute favorite of mine but the rhythm though…

Then by Brad Paisley

But now you’re my whole life
Now you’re my whole world
I just can’t believe, the way I feel about you, girl
Like a river meets the sea,
Stronger than it’s ever been.
We’ve come so far since that day
And I thought I loved you then

This definitely has been a favorite of mine for a long time now. The song is about not knowing that you can love someone so much more you think you could and more than you already have. The song itself is a story of how you think you already love someone so much already and yet you’ve grown to love them more and more each day.

Love Someone by Brett Eldredge

When I wake up in the middle of the night
You’re holding me so tight
Take whole of me, my oh my
Sure feels good to love someone
When you laugh at the way I dance
When you smile when you hold my hand
I look at you and I understand
Sure feels good to love someone

I like this song because it showcases how someone can find love in the simplest of gestures. Loving someone isn’t only about these grand acts of love. It is found in the simplest forms. The way you look at each other, your compromises on the littlest things or even by watching a movie you absolutely find boring but agreeing anyway because the person you love wants to see it. It doesn’t only feel good to love, it feels just as great to love someone.

I made the list so I can look back on this day knowing that both H and I are so committed to this relationship to the extent of actually choosing the songs for our wedding selectively. I’m pretty sure there’s a lot more songs out there that fits a wedding, may it be heterosexual ones or not. There’s just so much love within us that we want to share with the world some songs that could help you translate how you feel about someone by letting them listen to these songs if you’re too caught up with words to even begin to speak. Let your heart flow through music.

Posted in Personal, Poetry, Uncategorized

Beguiling.

At a glance, I’ve been captivated

I stared in awe as the world paused for a moment.

The sun’s gentle touch on your skin,

the wind blowing your hair with tenderness..

You seem to float on by towards me

it felt like living a dream rather than

my usual and superfluous reality.

I held my breath as you smiled,

Hot rods began to steam my face,

my pulse ran wild and my breath had bailed on me.

You look perfect in your dress,

gorgeous in your hair…

Your eyes that’re tantalizing met mine 

in a second’s notice.

I lifted both my hands, palms up – sweaty.

but you held them still, in the most romantic way -,

I’d imagine it would look like a dance move

perfectly choreographed to steal my heart.

“Would you take her as your wife?”

a voice of a middle-aged man echoed on through,

Who he is doesn’t matter the minute you said

“I do.”

MR | 06-MAR-19

Posted in Personal, Poetry

Life’s Hurdles.

Stand tall and proud
like you are the mountain.
Remain unbowed
thrive through, you’re winning.

Be swept away by the wind,
yet create your own path –
your life is lived today,
not in the future nor the past.

Sail through calm rivers,
but conquer the wild seas,
jump into the eye of the hurricane,
you can endure it – just believe!

Win or lose: you will be taught!
Don’t be afraid, never doubt.
The only bad experiences in life
are the ones you never took.

MR | 03-MAR-19

Posted in Opinion, Personal

The Importance of Gift-Wrapping

This post might be a little late, but I wouldn’t want to wait until Christmas of next year to write about gift-wrapping.

My fiancee once told me that no matter how expensive, well-thought of, or practical a gift is – the love and care that goes with it is initially seen in the way it’s wrapped. It might just be a piece of paper for most people or something to rip off on a present for luck – but there’s something fulfilling in wrapping them nicely too.

I don’t know about you, but we wrap our gifts carefully, methodically, and neatly. Personally, as I do it I always feel like I have given the gift more intrinsic value. Every fold on the edges, the careful placement of the tape, and the exhaustive alignment of the patterns with the shape of the item brings me an immense delight. Every moment I spend wrapping gifts are every moment spent of me thinking of the people that would receive them. Each time I write their names and think of a proper cursive font to use, it is me giving more thought to the gift.

No matter how you give your gift, how it’s wrapped will definitely give the receiver an significant feeling of elation. They don’t know what’s in it yet but they will not only be thankful that you thought of them, your wrapping will represent how fondly you thought of them even before you gave the present.

My partner and I love giving gifts. There’s pure pleasure in seeing people smile and thank you regardless what you’ve given them. I am encouraging everyone to spend more time on your gifts and pay close attention to the details in giving in even with just the wrapping. Christmas doesn’t have to end though. Every day for the coming years, let’s keep in mind that selflessness is in our very hearts and we don’t have to wait for Christmas to give nor be thankful.

Posted in On Reading, Opinion, Personal

Robin S Sharma: More Than A Guru

I used to walk within the city feeling so tiny and insignificant. I have done so for a while because I lingered on a very negative thought. “I am 30 years old, and I’m still a receptionist.” Truth be told, I have held bigger better positions before but I decided to go back to this level because — well, because of money.

I found myself embarrassed sometimes when people ask me “What do you do for a living?” I would respond meekly and almost in a whisper “Reception.” What I failed to recognize was that it’s something I can be proud of. Yes, I’ve had the title of an Executive Assistant, an Office Manager, and a Subject-Matter-Expert, but what I became too arrogant to acknowledge is that even the tiniest of position in a company matter and that leadership is not in the “title”. I knew this before – I probably just forgot.

“I AM a receptionist!” I should proudly say. Receptionists are the only one in the company who have full knowledge about anyone’s whereabouts which feels like everyone kind-of reports to us. They tell us where they are going and what they are doing. We know when to disturb them and when not to. We are the only ones who can disturb them that they can’t be angry about. We are the only ones who can duly perform tasks such as getting the stationery inventory ready. We know when the company’s out of paper and we all know how important that A4 and A3 paper is in a business. When things go wrong, we’re the first in line of action. We are equipped with a First Aid Kit knowledge. When an executive lacks time in creating a presentation, if you’re nice to us – just tell us what to write and we’ll do it for you in a heartbeat. We represent the company the moment a client steps in the office. Our warm greetings invite them to keep coming over until business is sorted. We make them feel welcome. In short, receptionists are one of the basic and most important employee in a company. For without a receptionist, who can attend to your calls and take the messages when you’re out of office? Who will let you know when your guests has arrived. Surely, these can be arranged in some other ways but you have to admit – having us makes your life a lot easier.

So why am I talking about my profession when the title says Robin S Sharma? I apologize if you felt that I misled you into reading this article, but I promise to make my point. I have downloaded his audio book on The Greatness Guide: 101 Lessons for Making What’s Good at Work and in Life Even Better. He mentioned a quote from Martin Luther King Jr.,

“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweeps streets even as Michaelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and Earth will pause to say ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.'”

Where I am, it’s not the dream job. But Sharma’s book and words got me grounded once more. Where I am is no one’s fault but my own. Human as we are, we are subject to evolve psychologically and mentally. Being here is part of my growth, it’s part of who I am. If I want to make a change I will have to do something about the situation. Being in Reception is a step so I remain humble in my ways but determined to go for what I want and what I’ve always dreamed of. There is no shame in what I do. When someone asks me again what I do for a living, I would raise my chin and proudly say “I am a receptionist!” It is a respectable job and it is the path that will bring me to my utmost aspiration. Until then, I will smile and greet guests, associates, and executives warmly and enthusiastically. I will support the company in the best possible ways that I can. Every day, I will be motivated to function in my maximum capacity because I am the company’s receptionist! What I do is important and I will be the best receptionist this company will ever see.

To me, Robin S Sharma has been more than a guru. He is an inspiration to everyone to always be kind and humble and to keep your eyes on the goal. As he said in his other book The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, “You must not get hung up on the outcome. Instead, enjoy the process of personal expansion and growth.” I will keep these words true and pure in my heart and will remember it every day as I live. For I am eternally grateful for this job and everything that comes along with it.

Posted in Opinion, Personal

Death of Another Legend: Stan Lee

When I was a kid, I’ve always been amused with Superheroes. My father handed me an old and worn X-Men comic book and then I got hooked. I started watching the animated series as well. I’ve read Marvel comic books since then and watched every single X-Men TV series (animated ones) and Marvel films there ever existed.

The first superhero I completely adored was Logan, who was better known with his mutant name as The Wolverine. He is a fiercely dedicated and loyal mutant. He is strong-willed but also stubborn, mostly cranky and likes picking fights, especially with other mutants from the X-men. He isn’t the usual and ideal hero who is kind, charming, and selfless. On the contrary, he sometimes acts impulsively and relies heavily on what he wants and needs. Although, he mostly comes right around his senses and acts as a hero nonetheless.

The Marvel Universe has a lot of heroes and other characters who teaches you a lot about your own personal values. The X-men, being my favorite, has taught me a lot about staying true to myself. They do not have this need to hide who they are, they embrace their uniqueness and attempt to use them as a tool in helping others regardless of how they look like and how humanity sees them as a threat to their safety. Also, there are a lot of story lines that are depicted in real-life. Take the fight between humanity and mutants for example, that and the almost impossible task of trying to co-exist with one another. It’s a lot like the real world where there is a constant struggle with people trying to co-exist with different races, sexes, sexuality and other classification that some would deem to be of lesser value than the other. Then again, there’s the X-men who tries, as much as they can, to neutralize the hatred. It’s just like how some people in our world thrives to make a difference.

My heart weeps for Stan Lee’s death, but I will forever rejoice his existence – his legacy.

He made heroes real, he made them exist, and he made me realize that heroes don’t just come in a form of a great and powerful being… Heroism can also be found even in the simplest of form – like a father handing down a Marvel comic book to her daughter knowing that she will enjoy and learn from it.

Your body may wither away, Stan, but you’ll always be alive in a lot of people’s hearts. Excelsior!

P.S. I will miss your cameos.